There is still a debate whether BPD is something you are born with, or if it is developed. Personally I think mine was developed, what do you think for yourself?
Did these happen to you for BPD to have been developed in your lifetime?
- Experienced abandonment or abuse when younger
- Neglect as a child
- Struggled in school
- Had inconsistent and undependable people in your life
- STrangers were often around and not uncommon growing up
- When you had an emotional bond with a person, they left, broke it, or betrayed you
- Parents or caregivers abused alcohol or drugs
- Saw parents or caregivers act aggressively to others
- Had parents or caregivers act aggressively toward you
- Chaos and crisis were common in life and at home
- When the house is quiet and calm, you feel bored, empty, and spiritless
- When the house is calm you felt anxious or afraid and on edge
- Left alone for hours or days
- Parents or caregivers out with boyfriends or girlfriends constantly
- Growing up, you felt like no one cared or even watched you. You were on you own
- When you tried to break out of the family cycle, do something different or out of the norm, you were rebuked, seen as a traitor, and criticized
- You learned from your family that you are loved when your dependant on them and often feel bad about being your own entity
- Respect and love usually meant pain, neglect, hurt, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or a combination of those
- At my lowest points I was shown care and love from a family member, but only when your at your lowest
- You learned that being sick and broken meant that you were given love, attention, and care
- You learned to be dishonest and devious because honesty ended in hurt and retributed
If you have BPD developed it usually is because a family member has Borderline Personality Disorder. Or even another mental illness that a family member had and passed down to you could have evolved into BPD. It is also common for it to be a combination of both being developed through life and genetics.